The Mid-Life Changes
Jan. 29th, 2023 04:22 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
turnonmyheelsI married my long-time friend and lover William in November 2022. In typical ME (also William) fashion, we didn't realize we were dating until several months AFTER we were dating and been informed from several folks that we were indeed in a relationship.
Many discussions and hindsight lead us to believe our first DATE was Dune 2022 which we watched from the comfort of my home. We don't live together yet, due to circumstances -mostly parental.
January of 2023 my boss (manfolk#1) came to me and told me he was taking a portion of my job away from me. This was due (rightly so) to the multitude of teeny tiny errors I had made over the years that finally amounted to dear god, get her to do something else. In typical fashion he communicated very poorly with me about his plans for the future. He simply stated he was retiring in eighteen months and that I could stay with the company in a new role we would develop together. I asked if I should find a new job and he said I could certainly look. He had a new person coming in place 2/1 and that's when everything would change for me. He eventually went on to say he wished happiness for me and that I could always come back to work for him if I wanted to.
My friends. I have been so depressed and mostly miserable since everybody started dying in 2016 and then the world truly fell to hell in 2018. I have been stuck and miserable. Complacent and non-involved. I took something like ... 45?? sick days last year because I didn't feel "good" hello depression and anxiety and then went on to make at least two errors every other day I worked.
Since January 9, I have been on indeed, zip recruiter, and linkedin (I hate linkedin) almost non-stop. Suddenly it was like finding a job was my brand new fandom AND a full time job AND a part time job all at once. Sally assured me I could do this and that I had actual skills I just needed to learn how to frame them. I talked to people I know, three recruiters, and a bunch of strangers. I applied to hundreds of jobs and read thousands of listings.
I have had 4 job offers. All of them were a raise from where I was. Since previous job included a car I had to find a job that would cover a car payment. I bought a 2019 VW Jetta SEL with only 16,000 miles on it and two years pre-paid maintenace before I found a job ... so I had to find a job to pay for that.
I needed a minimum of 55. It seemed impossible. First offer was 50K and 5 PTO days a year. Second offer was 55K with ALL the benefits and a 5% 401K match. Third offer was 45K full benefits and the ability to increase salary to 55K within 9 - 12 months if I was amazing at the new job. My fourth offer I wound up taking.
60K/yr Health, medical, vision. Monthly bonus (if earned ) 300 - 700/month. Two weeks vacation, and PTO.
People who have read this far.
This is a FIFTEEN THOUSAND DOLLAR RAISE. New yearly car expense runs around 8k. I can put REAL money into savings and investments with the amount of left over take home pay.
KADYMAE do you facebook at all? I've got a closed, private "Girls" group over there that is mostly LJ folks. I'd love to add you there if you're at all interested.
Many discussions and hindsight lead us to believe our first DATE was Dune 2022 which we watched from the comfort of my home. We don't live together yet, due to circumstances -mostly parental.
January of 2023 my boss (manfolk#1) came to me and told me he was taking a portion of my job away from me. This was due (rightly so) to the multitude of teeny tiny errors I had made over the years that finally amounted to dear god, get her to do something else. In typical fashion he communicated very poorly with me about his plans for the future. He simply stated he was retiring in eighteen months and that I could stay with the company in a new role we would develop together. I asked if I should find a new job and he said I could certainly look. He had a new person coming in place 2/1 and that's when everything would change for me. He eventually went on to say he wished happiness for me and that I could always come back to work for him if I wanted to.
My friends. I have been so depressed and mostly miserable since everybody started dying in 2016 and then the world truly fell to hell in 2018. I have been stuck and miserable. Complacent and non-involved. I took something like ... 45?? sick days last year because I didn't feel "good" hello depression and anxiety and then went on to make at least two errors every other day I worked.
Since January 9, I have been on indeed, zip recruiter, and linkedin (I hate linkedin) almost non-stop. Suddenly it was like finding a job was my brand new fandom AND a full time job AND a part time job all at once. Sally assured me I could do this and that I had actual skills I just needed to learn how to frame them. I talked to people I know, three recruiters, and a bunch of strangers. I applied to hundreds of jobs and read thousands of listings.
I have had 4 job offers. All of them were a raise from where I was. Since previous job included a car I had to find a job that would cover a car payment. I bought a 2019 VW Jetta SEL with only 16,000 miles on it and two years pre-paid maintenace before I found a job ... so I had to find a job to pay for that.
I needed a minimum of 55. It seemed impossible. First offer was 50K and 5 PTO days a year. Second offer was 55K with ALL the benefits and a 5% 401K match. Third offer was 45K full benefits and the ability to increase salary to 55K within 9 - 12 months if I was amazing at the new job. My fourth offer I wound up taking.
60K/yr Health, medical, vision. Monthly bonus (if earned ) 300 - 700/month. Two weeks vacation, and PTO.
People who have read this far.
This is a FIFTEEN THOUSAND DOLLAR RAISE. New yearly car expense runs around 8k. I can put REAL money into savings and investments with the amount of left over take home pay.
KADYMAE do you facebook at all? I've got a closed, private "Girls" group over there that is mostly LJ folks. I'd love to add you there if you're at all interested.
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Date: 2023-01-29 11:06 pm (UTC)