If it's any consolation, your advice sounds like the collective wisdom at ask metafilter. While they may urge folks to DTMFA a Little too often, it's Insane how often people come in saying things like, "sure, she threw a hammer at me, and well... a knife that one time while my toddler was in the room, but I don't want to break up." No! If the relationship is Damaging or Actively Painful? RUN.
It sort of shocked me when my SIL (the social worker) friend-dumped a woman who was abused and wouldn't leave. But she's right, there's only so long you can listen to someone complain and offer them support in leaving before you realize that their choosing to stay anyway is toxic for their friends, too.
Um, which is all a long-winded way of saying that I agree with your post. :D
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Date: 2011-06-02 01:15 pm (UTC)It sort of shocked me when my SIL (the social worker) friend-dumped a woman who was abused and wouldn't leave. But she's right, there's only so long you can listen to someone complain and offer them support in leaving before you realize that their choosing to stay anyway is toxic for their friends, too.
Um, which is all a long-winded way of saying that I agree with your post. :D