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I've read my way through all the Steubenville Files I was unable to watch or listen to all 12 minutes of the video. I got through about 4.5 minutes before I had to turn it off.

For my own sanity.

Why aren't more people talking about this? Are people trying to guard their sanity like I am, because if I think about it too much I start to lose it.

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I had to turn off the video, too. I couldn't stand the thought of these otherwise "normal, average" kids doing that. That boy talking so casually about a girl being dead, and completely unconcerned with her rape. I went and stared at my son for an hour, thinking of all the ways I could infuse empathy and humanity and kindness into him.

We need to have open discussion with kids that lack of consent, whether through deliberate intoxication or as the result of being Roofied is RAPE, and nothing but rape. You can hear one of the guys in the background of the "she's dead" video say, "Well, she was the one who drank that much." Yes, because any time anyone is passed out, FOR ANY REASON, that's automatic consent to sex with anyone in the area. WTF???

It's heartbreaking and soul-crushing, B.

People *are* talking about it. It's slowly hitting mainstream media and the video will (finally) push it further. To me, I'm a little surprised because I've been following the story for several weeks now. I thought it already *had* wider appeal. Maybe it's because I'm closer to Ohio, although I saw it on a national news site. I don't know.

It's horrifying. And the victim blaming and shaming is horrific and doesn't surprise me at all. I wish it did.

I read the piece that Rolling Stone did on the case right before I went on vacation & was so disgusted by the whole thing that I wanted to block it out of my head forever. The entire idea that people out there think this poor girl "deserved" to be sexually assaulted because she was passed out is so disturbing that I want to divorce myself from the human race.

Jezebel has a tag for the whole case. I couldn't watch the video, it was too upsetting. I was happy to see that my alma mater cancelled that kid's football scholarship.

I find the whole thing to be very "typical" of small towns in Ohio, down to the sheriff's comments. When I was an undergrad at OSU, my best friend was at Miami University (in Miami, Ohio), and there was a case where a whole frat had abducted a pizza girl and gang-raped her a year or two before she'd started there (somewhere between 1982-84). They all got off with a slap on the wrist "so that their futures won't be ruined" and then they all made t-shirts that boasted about being the pizza girl raping fraternity while the girl was told she couldn't discuss the case with anyone. The sheriff in that town said there was no such thing as rape and he used to refuse to investigate rape cases.

Yeah, I think it's that people don't want to think about it, and Anonymous have done a lot of uncovering stuff, but a lot of what they've found isn't admissable evidence, and it makes the community all the more defensive and awful about trying to protect the perpetrators and, just UGH. It makes me think of the time a high school student from my town actually got prison for rape, and how my first thought was about how many More people should've over the years.

Um, I'm not helping anything here. I guess that's why I haven't talked about it much, I feel like I'll just get mired in the "people suck" instead of moving on to the whole "we can all stop rape" better stuff.

OMG!!!! I can't believe this story it is 2013 people! This should not be allowed to happen with so many people knowing what actually happened. Has the media done anything about this? If not this should go to ALL the media channels to see what would happen.

These boys, as they will never be men, need to be stopped as they will continue to hurt girls and women! I am horrified!!!

TTYAL,

ED.

Yes. My sanity. I can't. The rage. The despair.

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